Dec 22, 2008
I have no idea what You are doing or why You allow things to happen. I am thankful that today I was not hurt when the tire blew out but at the same time I feel like everytime we get a blessing immediately it is stolen from us. Just like today, when the wheel blew out, Lord the financial blessing we got yesterday was going to be used for something else...instead we had to use it for this tire. I am thankful we have the money, I am thankful I was not hurt and that I was only going 25 mph instead of the 60, I am thankful that I got stopped at the light before it blew other wise I would have been doing 60. Lord, now once again I need you to step in and provide again so that we can take care of that other need we were planning to use that money for. Sometimes I just don't get it! Either way I will worship you and I trust that You alone will provide for what we need.
Dec 16, 2008
Dec 15, 2008
Dec 8, 2008
Please keep us in prayer. My husband was told today that as of Jan 15th he will no longer have a job. He has an opportunity for other positions within the company and we are believing that those doors are going to open for him. We have to!
Our cry tonight is "Move the mountains Lord, Break the Damn Lord! Set us on the mountain top and take us out of this valley In Jesus Name!!!"
Dec 3, 2008
You raise your kids and let me raise mine...
Recently I've experienced something I want to talk about here on the blog and just say it like it is and be done with it. I'm sick of people trying to insinuate how others should raise their kids. I'm not exactly new at this. I've raised one son to 19 years old who is a wonderful young man of God. No, he's not perfect but in my eyes he's darn close. :-) My point is, my children are not going to hell in a handbasket and I didn't start parenting yesterday.
I'm not perfect by any stretch, but on the other hand I am not clueless. One thing that I reallllllly hate are holier than thou condescending attitudes when it comes to parenting. The spirit of slap wants to come upon me many times, I must confess. I'll say first and foremost this isn't happening with anyone (that I know of!) in our church so it's one reason I'm just openly speaking my mind on this. If it were someone in our church Larry would have asked me to have some restraint. Who knows he might ask me to have some restraint after he reads this anyway? But lately I've had a few people question my choices as a parent and I have to admit it made me just a lih-tle uncomfortable!
Have you ever had someone condescendingly ask you why you are letting your kids watch certain TV shows or movies? Do you have others ask why you are feeding them certain foods without a lot of rules/restraint? (i.e., cookies, pizza, etc.) Are there those who ask why you are allowing them to have certain drinks without a lot of limits? (i.e. coffee, soda) Do people question why you are allowing them to participate in certain activities? (school prom, trick or treating, etc.) How about people asking why you allow them to have a cell phone, or to date?
I do not mind it when someone honestly asks my advice on a matter. It's fine to ask about our household policies or what I have personally found as wisdom for my particular children or family. But I don't believe we are cookie cutters -- I think what works for my child may not work for yours. God speaks to us personally about finding the key to our child's heart and raising each one. In the same way, what is acceptable for my family may not be acceptable for others, and that is fine. For instance, your son may have a very bad reaction to koolaid or soda...mine may not. So don't judge me if I allow mine to have it and I won't judge you that you don't allow yours to have it.
Let's parent as the Lord leads us to and not make announcements or judgments about how we do it.In the last month a few people have criticized me about what I allow my children to do, or what I do with them. There's a lady who works with my eldest son at the movie theater who is a member of another AG church. The other night she saw me come into the movie theater with my daughter. I was excited to come back from Africa and take her on a mom/daughter outing. This woman (who works in the concession stand there) told Dustin that she saw us come in and go to the movie and she felt it was very inappropriate that I was taking my daughter to this PG movie. She made a big deal about it and basically told Dustin she felt it was a sin what we were doing.I know some Christians still don't believe in going to the movies. Well, I am not one of them. I am not going to criticize somebody else because they don't go, but please keep your comments to yourself that I do. I was raised in an atmosphere where we were never allowed to go to the movies and trust me, it did absolutely nothing for us as far as keeping us from sin. We were no more holy because we didn't go to theaters. In fact many of the kids I grew up with in the church ARE going to hell in a handbasket.
It's unfortunate and actually tragic. What drove them away to this horrible backslidden state many are in? Maybe it was all these silly rules that were nothing but a bunch of legalism. I believe it's these sort of attitudes (being told that if Jesus came back while we were in a movie theater he wouldn't be able to find us...HOW STUPID!) that pushed people further away from God and the church than closer to them. I came to realize that Jesus can find us whether we are in a movie theatre, wearing pants or makeup, or drinking a cup of coffee. If somebody's Jesus isn't enough to find them through all that, they aren't serving the same powerful Jesus I am.
All I can say to that is, I hope that lady definitely decides to stay in her other AG church, thank you very much! It really was none of her business, quite truthfully, what I was taking my daughter to see. Two other people asked me about things of the same nature recently, with a very condescending attitude. Make no mistake, Jesus is coming back! He will find me no matter where I am because I am His child. He will take me to heaven whether I am in church, in a movie theater, or cooking supper. If He holds off a little longer on coming back, I really cannot wait to see what some people's kids turn out to be like. Will all this super protection and forsaking of soda and movies with any kind of "worldly" theme (in some people's eyes) produce perfect children?
In my experience, people with very rigid rules for the sake of rules tend to produce kids who are kind of unbalanced later in life and can sometimes really go bonkers. In fact, it's interesting Dustin just told me today that the son of the lady he works with absolutely hates her. And he said, "you know Mom, I think if she were my Mom I would struggle with that too." Interesting. One thing I have always heard is, "rules without relationship lead to rebellion." I also believe rules without a sensible reason lead to rebellion.When I was a child, I loved coffee and sometimes at church fellowships I would try to sneak a cup. The adults never let us kids drink it because they said it would "stunt our growth." Coffee drinking by kids was strictly forbidden, like it was whiskey or something. I now know that's a load of bunk.
Savanna has been drinking coffee with me for YEARS. In fact her Grandpa Shrodes got her started on it when she was just a baby. If you have ever seen my daughter in person you know she is tall. She has been the tallest child in her class every year and no one can ever believe she's is as young as she is when I tell them. So much for stunted growth. No, she does not drink coffee all the time, usually just here and there on special occasions, but we do not make a big deal of it because I believe there is no reason to.
My philosophy as a parent is that when I can say yes, I do -- because we do have to say no to enough things -- why not say yes to things when we can?As far as my eldest "child" - he is now the age his father was when we got married. He is a young adult - not a child anymore. He chooses his diet and his movies himself and I trust him to do so. My middle son is not far behind...he'll be 18 in three more months. And Savanna...well, she's eleven and I'm just sayin' to all the condescenders out there...you raise your kids, let me raise mine.
Do me a favor and don't ask me with that snooty attitude why we are going to a certain movie or buying our 11 year old a latte. If my kids are going to hate me, I want it to be because I said no to things that really mattered. I refuse to make a mountain out of a molehill with my kids and make an issue out of things that are small in light of eternity.
I think people have too much time on their hands. I have way too much to do to worry about what other people are feeding their kids or what movies they let them watch. My own household is all I can handle and it keeps me busy enough.
Me Again-Deanna you are such a great friend. Thank you for being so candid and honest!
I too often times get to a point where a "slap down" may occur even though I haven't actually slapped someone. I have definitly wanted to I can tell you that! I have told people to mind their own business a few times though! Untill you have walked in my shoes and been the parent of my kids including a special needs child keep your mouth shut! If you have that much time on your hands why not volunteer to work in the children's ministry or some other ministry within your church or better yet start attending to your own kids....hmmmm by the way do you know where they are right now??? I know where mine are and what they are doing!
Nov 27, 2008
*My loving supportive husband.
*My 4 wonderful kids; Jaron a fantastic big brother who although is just like me in looks and personality (which is great for him but we butt heads a lot) is just one of my little heart beats. Kristofer, my special little kid who struggles through every day events but is a lion full of courage and a kitten who is tender hearted. Eli our youngest son who is super tenderhearted, is a protector of his sister (when they aren’t fighting) and a constant buddy to his brothers who he adores. Sara, my only little princess who is all girl and all tomboy. She is one of the best surprises and blessings!
Last but not least, for my little angel boy, SeanPatrick who would be 11 and is celebrating this thanksgiving at the feet of Jesus with my grandparents, Mamaw and my Uncle Bob.
*For my parents, who help us so much more than I could ever repay, for my brothers and sister and their families.
*For Sean’s Mom and brother’s and sister’s who our kids adore!
*For my friends throughout the US and in other countries such as Dominican Republic, S. Africa, Germany, China, Japan serving our Lord and winning souls for Christ.
*Good heath and healing knees.
*The ability to walk without crutches or a cane.
*A warm house and a running vehicle.
*Our funny kittens- CC (fostering), Sugar and Mr. Jingles, our dog Izzy and our wonderful ferrets- Woody & Uno.
*A wonderful church.
*A beautiful sunny crisp day to take my children to the park while the turkey cooks and Sean sleeps after working all night.
*Thankful that although Sean has to work 32 hours from last night till Sat. he has a job in this economy and is making extra money through overtime while helping a coworker who’s husband is battling leukemia.
*This computer and the ability to talk to friends across the miles through the internet…thank goodness for the internet!
*For Facebook.com of which I have reconnected with old friends from high school and college and can keep in contact with close friends in Florida.
*For Myspace.com of which I am able to keep in contact with cousins, aunts, sibs and friends who are not on Face book (come on gang Facebook is better!)
Nov 26, 2008
So I looked at the scripture in I Samuel 17 and in Matthew 14. Do you know what those two stories have in common? Both David and Peter trusted God fully and acted on their faith IMMEDIATELY! David’s focus was fully on God’s promise to save the Isrealites, he fully trusted in God and had faith that He would deliver him from the hands of Goliath. Here read this:
I Samuel 17: 45-48
45 Then said David to the Philistine, “You come to me with a sword, and with a spear, and with a javelin: but I come to you in the name of Lord of hosts, the God of the armies of Israel, whom you have defied. 46 This day will Jehovah deliver you into my hand; and I will
smite you, and cut off your head; and I will give the dead bodies of the army of the Philistines this day to the birds of the air, and to the wild beasts of the earth; that all the earth may know that there is a God in Israel,
47 and that all this assembly may know that the Lord saves not with sword and spear: for the battle is the Lord's, and he will give you into our hand. 48 When the Philistine came forward to meet David, David ran quickly toward the battle line to meet the Philistine.
David stood on what he knew about God and he acted on it. He did not wait and
ponder on whether he would succeed. He “ran quickly toward the battle” how many times to do we do this? I know I don’t, most times I say, “well I have to pray about it, I need confirmation.” But God wants us to be more like David and act quickly and do as He has called us to do ~ sometimes that might mean face the giant and run quickly towards it and say what David said, “for the battle is the Lord’s.” Instead of wondering if you are good enough, have the capabilities or not, we need to ACT on what God has called us to do and leave the results up to Him. When we do this we will have the victory. Sometimes that victory may just be the act of laying down the results and trusting God for the outcome. Other times it may mean the giant is killed, defeated and put to rest! Other times it means stepping out of the boat like Peter.
26 And when the disciples saw him walking on the sea, they were troubled, saying, It is a ghost; and they cried out for fear.
27 But straightway Jesus spoke to them, saying Be of good cheer; it is I; be not afraid.
28 And Peter answered him and said, Lord, if it is you, command me to come to You on the water.
29 And he said, Come. And Peter stepped out of the boat, and walked on the waters to come to Jesus.
30 But when he saw the wind, he was afraid; and beginning to sink, he cried out, saying, Lord, save me.
31 And immediately Jesus stretched out His hand, and took hold of him, and said to him, You of little faith, why did you doubt?
Peter did just like David did. Jesus said, “Come.” Peter didn’t question he stepped out of the boat immediately. The scripture does not say, “Peter pondered the call, he prayed about the call or asked for other’s advice about the call!” NO, it says Peter stepped out of the boat. We need to act upon our faith and step out of the boat! Only then can we see God’s hand upon us and walk on water! When we step out, God will perform miracles! Peter would have never known what it was like to walk on water had he stayed in the boat! Yes we see in verse 30 that Peter got scared. God never told us that stepping out of the boat was going to be easy or that storms wouldn’t come. But
if we respond like Peter did and cry out to the Lord, He is always faithful to stretch out His hand.
Nov 22, 2008
Nov 16, 2008
Nov 9, 2008
All week it has weighed on me and I have asked the Lord to show me, lead me to the scripture He wanted me to read to understand more about this, "speaking to the mountains." Well last night I was sitting here listening to praise and worship music and asked again for the Lord to direct me to scripture. I opened the Bible to Ezekiel 36:1. Which states (paraphrased) "speak to the mountains and declare the Word of the Lord." Which sent me to shouting! Because that is exactly what I was doing ad had no idea it was there in the word. Now the circumstances are different in that scripture but it said "declare (prophesy) to the mountains My Word" said the Lord.
Well this morning during Sunday school I was trying to listen to the teaching but God was speaking to my heart about the mountains again. I grabbed a Bible and began writing down everything the Lord was showing me. SO AWESOME! So listen to this!!!
In Matt 17:20 Jesus tells His disciples that if they have faith as small as a mustard seed then they can tell the mountain to move and it will. A mustard seed is pretty small. To have just that amount of living faith can move those mountains.
Nov 7, 2008
Nov 3, 2008
That night at around one in the morning I was praying and God gave me a very strong word for our church. It is awesome. I am not going to share it here but I can tell you when the picture that God gave me is fulfilled out church will be busting at the seems and we will have to bring on a full time youth pastor and possibly children's pastor! What I can share is that we are to prepare. The first step to preparing for the incoming souls is prayer and fasting and of course getting more into the word of God. It's the first step for anything God has planned. We are very excited about what is in store for our church.
Sunday morning we were blessed with a new family who was visiting for the first time. They live just a few blocks from the church. They have two wonderful little boys who are 6 & 7 yrs of age. Very cute little guys and so polite! They all seemed to enjoy Sunday School and the main services. The boys definitely enjoyed Children's church. Planning to make contact with the family this week and invite them back.
Have more to write later tonight if I get a chance to.
Oct 31, 2008
But the not so great things have just gotten worse. I can't praise You enough for what you have done for our church and how You seem to show up each service! Thank you for that Lord! There are changes taken place I can see them, feel them and expect more! But other personal situations have just grown worse and worse. I want freedom Lord to worship an adore you with all the yuck weighing on my mind all the time. It is only when I am singing praises and worshiping you do I feel free! There are time just struggle to even hum a tune and then there times like the last few days I can't seem to stop worshiping you. I know its because when I worship you the Holy Spirit comes in like a flood and I begin to fill your presence like never before! Thank you Lord for showing up when I need you!
Today as I was worshiping I felt drawn to Lamentations. To "lament" is to feel intense sorrow, sadness, or grief, even to cry or to wail. Lamentations focuses on suffering, loss and hopelessness. The reality of pain, grief and tragedy is shown here to be jut as real for that time as it is for our time. I honestly thought as I turned to Lamentations, "Lord I need to be uplifted, encouraged today, not brought down again." But when I opened the book of Lamentations I actually turned to chapter 3 verses 19-26:
"O Lord, remember earnestly my affliction and my misery, my wandering and my outcast state, the wormwood and he gall. My soul has them continually in remembrance and is bowed down within me. But this I recall and therefore have I hope and expectation: It is because of the Lord's mercy and loving-kindness that we are not consumed, because His tender compassion's fail not. They are new every morning; great and abundant is Your stability and faithfulness. The Lord is my portion or share, says my living being (my inner self); therefore will I hope in Him ad wait expectantly for Him. The Lord is good to those who wait hopefully an expectantly for Him, to those who seek Him, inquire of and for Him and require Him by right of necessity and on the authority of God's word. It is good that one should hope in and wait quietly for the salvation, the safety and ease of the Lord.
This is actually very encouraging! Yes we have problems, who doesn't! I mean hello all you have to do is turn on the tv and see how bad the economy is and how its affecting not only our country but the world. It is terrible it is. I have friends that are dealing with major illnesses, my Uncle Bob is suffering from lung cancer that as spread to his liver and brain! I have friends that are struggling to make ends meet like us, family members that are or have lost their home do to no work. A dear friend that walked into the hospital and because of a doctor who thought he could do something and not heed a warning buzzer, has lost all feeling and may never walk out the same...if she gets to walk out! SO yes everyone deals with different issues, struggles, storms in their lives. Compared to some ours are noting to even link at for our family we are struggling. But despite these things we are encouraged to put those things aside and start looking at what we do have! Start looking at the positive!
Is that always easy to do? Not at all! But verse 25 is a promise from the Lord! Read it again:
"The Lord is good to those who wait hopefully and expectantly for Him, to those who seek Him, inquire of and from Him and require Him by right of necessity and on the authority of God's word."
Does that not excite you! THE LORD IS GOOD TO THOSE THAT WAIT HOPEFULLY AND EXPECTANTLY! The key is And. We are to wait hopefully and expectantly. Apparently its not good enough to just be hopeful we have to be expectant too! When we do both of these things, God promises to be good to us! Does that me we get out of the storm quickly? NO! Does that mean we get what we want? NO! It means that God is going to make sure we are taken care of and He promises to "complete that which He has started in us."
If you are like me and struggling today to see the positive, hold fast to this scripture. and know no matter what your circumstances say God says something different. Stand hopeful and expectant, waiting on God and He will do that which is good for you! It may not be what you are wanting but what ever and however He turns things around it will be for your benefit and His glory!